The Top 10 Things More Important Than Skills & Experience in Hiring
For decades, hiring managers have been fixated on two primary factors when evaluating candidates: skills and experience. These are typically gleaned from resumes, those time-honored documents that have been the cornerstone of the hiring process for far too long. But it's time to ask ourselves: In today's rapidly evolving business landscape, are skills and experience really the most important factors to consider?
The Resume Relic
Let's face it: resumes are relics. They're snapshots of past experiences and skills, often carefully curated and increasingly unreliable in the age of AI-generated content. Even if we could guarantee their authenticity, two critical questions emerge:
- Can resumes reliably tell us about a candidate's skills and experience in today's rapidly evolving job market?
- Are skills and experience even among the top things we should be looking for in a candidate?
The truth is, the resume-centric approach to hiring was never foolproof. It became the standard because, for a long time, it was the best option we had. But in today's dynamic business landscape, it's time to look beyond the paper and focus on factors that truly predict success.
The Top 10 Factors More Important Than Skills & Experience
Here are ten factors that might be more predictive of a candidate's success than their listed skills and experience:
1. Hardwiring and Innate Drivers
Understanding a person's core motivations and natural tendencies can provide invaluable insights into how they'll perform in a role and within a team. Tools like Aptive Index can help uncover these crucial attributes. These innate characteristics often determine how effectively someone will apply their skills and experience.
2. Adaptability and Learning Agility
In a rapidly changing business environment, the ability to adapt quickly and learn new skills is often more valuable than existing knowledge. A candidate who can pivot quickly and absorb new information will outperform one with a static skill set.
3. Culture Fit and Values Alignment
How well does a candidate's personal values and work style align with your organization's culture and mission? This alignment can significantly impact their job satisfaction, productivity, and longevity with your company.
4. Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills are crucial for effective collaboration and leadership. High EQ often translates to better team dynamics and customer relationships.
5. Problem-Solving Approach
How a candidate approaches complex problems can reveal more about their potential than their current skill set. Look for creative thinking, analytical skills, and the ability to break down complex issues.6. Resilience and GritThe capacity to persist in the face of challenges and bounce back from setbacks is a strong indicator of long-term success. This trait often separates high performers from the rest.
7. Potential for Growth
Assessing a candidate's capacity and desire for development can be more valuable than their current skills. Look for curiosity, eagerness to learn, and a history of personal and professional growth.
8. Collaboration and Teamwork Skills
The ability to work effectively with others and contribute to a positive team dynamic is crucial in most modern workplaces. These skills often determine how well a person can apply their individual abilities within a team context.
9. Alignment with Future Organizational Needs
Consider how well a candidate's potential aligns with where your organization is heading, not just where it is now. This forward-thinking approach can help future-proof your workforce.
10. Diversity of Thought and Experience
A candidate's unique perspectives can bring valuable diversity to problem-solving and innovation within the organization. This diversity often leads to more creative solutions and better decision-making.
Moving Beyond the Resume
Does this mean we should toss resumes out the window? Not necessarily. They can still provide useful context about a candidate's journey. However, they shouldn't be the primary factor in hiring decisions.Instead, we need to develop more holistic assessment methods that take into account the factors listed above. This might involve:
- Structured interviews that probe for adaptability, problem-solving skills, and cultural fit
- Psychometric assessments to understand a candidate's innate drivers and potential
- Job auditions or simulations to see how candidates perform in real-world scenarios
- Reference checks that focus on a candidate's soft skills and ability to learn and grow
Conclusion
It's time to move beyond the resume and rethink what truly matters in hiring. By focusing on factors like innate drivers, adaptability, and cultural fit, we can make better hiring decisions. This approach not only leads to more successful hires but also opens doors for candidates who might have been overlooked in a traditional resume-centric process.The future of hiring isn't about finding the person with the perfect list of skills and experiences. It's about finding individuals with the right potential, drive, and alignment with your organization's values and goals. By prioritizing these ten factors over traditional skills and experience, you'll be well on your way to building a more dynamic, adaptable, and successful workforce.
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The same behavioral science that builds high-performing teams can also help you become a more thoughtful spouse, parent, and family member. Because once you stop guessing why people behave the way they do, everything changes.
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One of you needs details before acting; the other wants to focus on the big picture.
Neither is wrong. You’re simply wired differently.
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Understanding Each Child’s Drives
Aria helps you decode your children’s unique behavioral patterns.
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- A low Sociability child needs quiet independence.
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Making Sense of Recurring Patterns
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Trust means different things to different people and that’s why it’s often misunderstood.
Aria’s Trust Framework
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Rebuilding Trust with Precision
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The Ripple Effect
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The Personal Transformation Users Don’t Expect
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The Universal Pattern of Learning
Every skill we master follows the same four-stage pattern. Understanding these stages doesn't just help us learn – it helps us become better teachers and leaders. Let's break it down:
Stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent
This is where we start: completely unaware of what we don't know. My son watching me drive from the passenger seat thinks it looks easy. Just like I once thought leadership was simply about telling people what to do. In this stage, we don't even know enough to be nervous.
What it sounds like:
- "How hard can it be?"
- "I've watched others do this plenty of times"
- "It's just common sense, right?"
Stage 2: Consciously Incompetent
Reality hits. For my son, it's the moment he first sits behind the wheel and realizes he needs to simultaneously:
- Watch all mirrors
- Control the pedals
- Stay in lane
- Monitor speed
- Watch for hazards
- Follow traffic rules
Suddenly, what looked simple becomes overwhelming. This is exactly how I felt in my first leadership role. The sheer number of things to track, decisions to make, and relationships to manage felt paralyzing.
This is where most people quit. The gap between where they are and where they need to be feels too vast. The awareness of everything they don't know becomes overwhelming.
Stage 3: Consciously Competent
This is the practice phase. Every action requires intense focus and deliberate thought. New drivers white-knuckle the steering wheel, mentally checking every mirror, hyper-aware of every move. New leaders similarly overthink every interaction, decision, and meeting.But here's the good news: with enough practice, patterns emerge. Confidence builds. What once required intense concentration starts to flow more naturally.
Stage 4: Unconsciously Competent
Finally, mastery (auto-pilot)! Experienced drivers navigate complex situations without conscious thought. Their mind is free to focus on higher-level decisions because the basics have become automatic.Great leaders reach this same state. They can seamlessly shift from strategic planning to team development to crisis management, all while making it look effortless. But remember – it only looks effortless because of the thousands of hours of practice that came before.And also remember – never stop learning. Don’t assume you’ve got it figured out.
Breaking Through the Barrier
Remember that critical second stage where most people quit? Here's how to push through:
- Normalize the Overwhelm
- Recognize that feeling overwhelmed is a sign of growth
- Understand that everyone goes through this phase
- Use it as a signal that you're actually learning
- Chunk It Down
- Break the skill into smaller, manageable pieces
- Focus on mastering one element at a time
- Celebrate small wins along the way
- Find a Guide
- Learn from those who've already mastered the skill
- Seek feedback from experienced mentors
- Use structured learning programs to fast-track progress
The Leadership Connection
Leadership development follows this exact pattern. New leaders often move from:
- Thinking leadership is simple (Stage 1)
- Becoming overwhelmed by its complexity (Stage 2)
- Deliberately practicing new skills (Stage 3)
- Finally leading naturally and effectively (Stage 4)
The key is recognizing where you are in the journey and not getting discouraged in that critical second stage. Remember: feeling overwhelmed isn't a sign that you're failing – it's a sign that you're growing.
Moving Forward
Whether you're learning to drive, lead, or master any new skill, understanding these four stages helps you:
- Recognize where you are in the learning journey
- Stay motivated during the challenging phases
- Support others through their own development
- Build more effective learning environments
The path from unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence isn't easy, but it is predictable. And with the right understanding, support, and persistence, it's absolutely achievable.
Transforming self-reflection for better leadership outcomes
As leaders reset priorities and recalibrate their approach for the year ahead, one of the most powerful shifts you can make won't show up in a strategic plan or quarterly goals. It lives in the questions you ask - especially the ones you think demonstrate accountability.
Most leaders believe asking "why" drives self-awareness and ownership. The neuroscience tells a different story.
The Brain's Threat Response
When someone hears "Why did you do that?" their amygdala interprets it as an attack. The brain doesn't distinguish between "Why did you miss the deadline?" and "You screwed up and now defend yourself."
Research from organizational psychologist Tasha Eurich shows that people who frequently ask themselves "why" questions experience more anxiety and depression. They ruminate rather than problem-solve. They create elaborate justifications rather than actionable insights.
The same dynamic happens in leadership conversations. Ask "Why did you do that?" and watch what happens: people either shut down completely or launch into defensive explanations that protect their ego rather than examine the real issue.
What "Why" Actually Produces
Defensiveness: People shift into justify mode, constructing explanations that make them look less bad rather than genuinely reflecting.
Backward focus: "Why" keeps people stuck analyzing the past instead of designing different futures.
Shallow thinking: Paradoxically, "why" questions produce surface-level answers. "Because I was overwhelmed" provides nothing actionable.
Emotional shutdown: For team members with certain behavioral drives, "why" questions create such discomfort that they disengage entirely.
The Alternative That Works
Replace "why" with "what" and "how."
Instead of "Why did you miss the deadline?" try "What got in the way of meeting the deadline?"
The shift is subtle but profound. The first puts them on trial. The second enlists them as a problem-solving partner.
- "What were you hoping to accomplish?" (instead of "Why did you do it that way?")
- "What would need to be different next time?" (instead of "Why do you think this keeps happening?")
- "How are you thinking about approaching this?" (instead of "Why haven't you started yet?")
These questions activate the prefrontal cortex rather than the amygdala's fight-or-flight response. They shift people from defensive to reflective, from stuck to moving forward.
Real-World Results
A VP of Operations restructured her performance conversations using this framework.
Before: "Why are you consistently late to our team meetings?"
After: "What's making it difficult to join on time? What support would help?"
Instead of excuses, she got real information: "I'm trying to prep for these meetings and never have enough time" or "I'm unclear on the priority level of this meeting versus my project deadlines."
Suddenly she had actual problems to solve rather than justifications to push back against.
Implementation
Before your next three challenging conversations, write down the "why" questions that come to mind. Rewrite them as "what" or "how" questions.
Track whether people become more defensive or more collaborative. Most leaders are shocked by how much resistance evaporates when they remove "why" from these conversations.
As you think about the leadership habits you want to reinforce this year, this shift costs nothing and changes everything.
The Deeper Pattern
This isn't about avoiding one word. It's about understanding how questions shape the thinking they produce.
"Why" questions produce justifications and rumination. "What" and "how" questions produce insight and action.
Teams don't need more interrogation. They need better questions that produce better thinking.